The next time you’re out in public, take a look around. Notice the look of indifference on people’s faces as they shuffle their feet, put their heads down, and pretend not to see you. Sadly, most people will walk through life with a sense of hopelessness and incompleteness.
It’s because most of us are living by society’s standards and not our own. We do all the things that are expected of us without much thought as to whether it’s actually right for us or will make us happy.
After all, life should be a happy experience, shouldn’t it?
You don’t have to live this way, but you may be choosing to. And a big part of the problem is that you are telling yourself the following lies that you have come to believe as truth.
1. My past defines me.
I had a crappy childhood. I was small, weak, picked last in gym class, didn't play sports, date in school, and was bullied for an entire year.
I could have easily crawled into my shell and withdrawn from life, but I didn't. I chose a different path and so can you.
2. Work is supposed to suck, that’s why it’s called work.
I have no issue with hard work and in fact, I advocate it. But working for the sake of working doesn’t make sense. Sure you have to pay your bills, but so do all the small business owners, online entrepreneurs, and people who are happily pursuing their dreams.
The only reason you may be working in a job you don’t like is because you’re afraid of change. You are scared that you will fail, be broke, lose your house, wife and family and it will all be because you took a chance.
And while all those things are technically possible, what you’re doing now is nothing more than passing your time until you're old enough to retire and then too old to do anything about it.
So tell me, where’s the risk?
3. I don’t deserve to be happy.
Unfortunately, this is a deeply ingrained lie that can cause you to spend your life living just above average. From early childhood, you are led to believe certain things about yourself and many times, it’s negative.
Many of you falsely believe you are not good enough to be/do/have what you want in this life. And I’ll tell you with absolute certainty- it’s complete bullshit. You are far more powerful than you believe.
4. I can’t change.
Of course, you can. It’s very challenging to change, especially permanently, but it needs to happen if you are going to improve your life. Doing the same things and making the same decisions every day and thinking something new will happen is madness.
Being unhappy can be caused by a number of things, but chances are, it’s your negative, self-defeating habits that are the culprit.
Change is very possible and will require you to adopt new positive habits. It will also require you to dump some bad ones that are weighing you down. The good news is that you will start seeing improvements in your life quickly when you start being more positive and sticking to your new habits.
5. Things will get better.
Again, wrong. They won’t get better until YOU get better. The world doesn’t owe you anything, you have to work hard to get what you want. Hell, you’re already working hard now, you just may be directing your energy in the wrong places.
Start by taking small steps towards your goals. And if you have no goals, set some. Don’t try to go from miserable cubicle worker to lifestyle design magnate overnight, that will never work and will only serve to demotivate you. Instead, take it slowly and be realistic about what you can accomplish each day.