OK guys, this is a post I’ve been wanting to write for a while, but have been putting it off because I wanted to take some of my emotions out of it.
You see, one of the hardest things for me as a fitness coach is to see people wasting their time (and life) just going through the motions. Grinding out the day to day is no way to live. I know because I did it for 10 years straight when I was married and was working a desk job I hated.
But I get it. I know many of you are struggling just to get by and make enough money to pay your mortgage, car payments, tuition, kids sports, and all your other obligations. And many of you are busting your ass to make it all happen.
Again, I’ve been there. Working a strenuous 10 hour per day job and training before and after work was rough. I survived on little sleep and had to hustle for every nickel I made.
But it’s just an excuse…
Your Excuses Are Slowly Killing You
And while I totally understand that it’s a struggle to make time for it all as a busy dad, what I don’t have patience for is excuses.
Working your fingers to the bone so your kids can eat is a noble thing but using your situation, however difficult, as an excuse to put off your health and wellness is not only selfish, it’s killing you.
Yes, I believe that putting yourself last is a selfish act. After all, how can you be the best person, employee, friend, or dad you can be if you can’t even take care of yourself?
And yes, it’s killing you. Not today or tomorrow, but slowly and methodically. You are not getting any younger and as the years pass, it will become harder and harder to keep your health and fitness up.
Starting now is the best thing you can do for yourself.
But you have to start!
Since starting FitDadNation.com over four years ago, we’ve been able to grow our community to well over 25,000 dads and I get to hear from so many guys who are struggling in their lives and desperately want and need a change.
That’s what I’m here for; to help those guys.
But what I see every single day is these same dads making excuse after excuse as to why they can’t start exercising, join a gym, eat healthier, etc.
- “I don’t have enough time”
- “I don’t have any money”
- “I have too much debt”
- “My job is too stressful”
- ” I had to move in with my parents”
- “Not in my budget”
- “I’m behind on my taxes”
- “I have no motivation”
- “I’ve tried and failed”
- “I travel for work too much”
Do any of these sound familiar? They should because they came straight from you! These are actual responses I’ve received and guess what??
They are all fucking excuses!!
I’m Here For YOU
You need to understand that I’m not running this business just to pass my time. I’m doing it because there is a desperate need for it and I can help you.
There are few quality resources specifically for dads out there that are designed to help you get your life back on track, physically and mentally. And that’s where I fit in!
But I can’t help you if you can’t commit to helping yourself.
For example, my 90 day transformation program called The Fit Dad Blueprint, which is a simple program that is designed to help you drop belly fat, clean up your diet and kick sugar and processed foods, and help you feel better than you have in years, isn’t reaching as many dads as I’d like.
And the #1 reason is because it’s “too expensive” for many of you.
Let me ask you this: If you were offered one of the following for $97, would you find the money?
- A 50 inch flat screen TV
- A trip to Disney for you and your kids
- A new Ford F250 truck
- Next month’s mortgage
- Excellent health and dental medical coverage
- Tuition to an ivy league college for your kids
Of course you would! You’d do whatever it took to find that cash because of the value you place on those things. But when it comes to investing in yourself, you make excuses and “can’t” find the money.
If you aren’t ready to make a change in your life, it’s OK. I’m not here to force you to do anything you aren’t ready for. But I know many of you are ready to change your lives, to start getting fit again and gaining back that long lost confidence.
But you’re letting a measly $97 get in your way of starting. Of course I’d love for you to become part of this program, but at the end of the day, it’s not about me selling something to you..
it’s about you making the choice to do something about taking back control of your life.
I can’t help you if you’re going to let a busy schedule, too much debt, or not having $100 in your wallet stop you.
But here’s the thing; I just don’t buy it. We ALL have busy lives. I have debt. I work 12 hours a day. I am struggling financially. But when I see an opportunity to better myself, I’m on it.
For example, I recently hired someone to help me with my business with money I didn’t have. Why? Because I want to get better and I believe in investing in myself. I believe I’m worth it.
Can you say the same thing?
Make A Commitment..To Something
I can write here all day long telling you how you should take your health seriously and how you’re allowing yourself to be sucked down by excuses, but it only matters if you actually do something about it.
I don’t care if you buy my program, do the p90x, join Gold’s gym, or start training at home with a set of dusty 10 pound dumbbells you’ve had since 1984. The point is to commit to something, anything, that will start making your life better.
For me personally it was exercise. When I was at my lowest point and could barely find the strength or energy to get out of bed, starting with consistent exercise is what got me started on the path to feeling good again and ultimately, turning my life around.
Please understand that I’m not here to beat you up, call you lazy, or tell you you’re full of shit (although some of you are). I’m here to teach you, coach you, help you, and guide you on your journey to getting your life back together.
My question is..will you let me?