As I sit here writing at my dining room table and work from home, while every one of my neighbors had to commute in the horrendous D.C. metro traffic today, I feel extremely grateful.
It’s here that I spent much of my day working remotely from my HP laptop, trying to help dads turn their lives around. It can be lonely sitting here staring at a computer screen all day, but it’s what I love doing.
I decided a year ago that I wanted to reach out there to the interwebz and help as many dads and single dads as I could and the only way to do that on a massive scale was to create an online business. Thus, SingleDadFitDad.com was born.
I have the undying support of my girlfriend Shenan, who has become a very important part of my life in the last few years. And in the wake of my divorce and emotional struggles, she has been the glue that’s held me together on so many occasions.
For this I am also grateful.
I have two amazing daughters who are my world and am honestly living a blessed life right now. I have no complaints and see only great things in my future.
But it wasn’t always like this. Not even close.
And this makes me think about all of you who are in the situation I was in for so many years; a situation I was able to get myself out of before it was too late.
There Is No Glory In Misery
After spending over a decade grinding out a miserable job in finance, dreading Monday mornings, and being a slave to egotistical bosses and the almighty cubicle, I am now a different man in a much different place.
No longer is my home filled with tension and unspoken insults. No longer do I have to sleep on my couch, wondering why my life is so shitty and how I can make it better.
Being stuck, at least in my own mind, in a passionless existence was killing me. Literally. I truly believe that if I hadn’t made the gut wrenching decision to move out of my home and start a new life, I’d be well on my way to an early grave.
But I did and although it was brutally painful for a long time, I’ve never looked back.
But things have changed. I’ve changed and I feel good. In fact, better than I have in many, many years. And it’s not because of any one specific thing but rather because of all the decisions I’ve made in the last three years that led me to this moment.
But it was because I made the choice to change, to be better, to actually enjoy my life, and try to find some semblance of happiness.
I made the choice to not live the rest of my life for someone else and instead was going to live it for me. I had played the martyr long enough and sacrificed my happiness to keep the status quo going for far too long.
And it wasn’t working.
And I knew that if I made changes; massive changes, that life would change as well. For me and for my daughters.
Life Gets Better, But Only If You Make It Better
I’m far from being where I want, having the business I want, or being as strong emotionally or physically as I want to be. But I work on it every day and get to do what I love, which is something very few people can honestly say.
I’m not here to judge you, tell you your life sucks, or beat you down. That’s already happened enough and what you need now is a sense of hope; hope that you can make a change in your life so big that it alters the course of your life.
And one of the best ways to get started down that new path is by dedicating yourself to getting healthy. And I don’t mean “look good in a tank top” healthy, but honest to goodness “feel good inside and out” healthy.
You see, life gets dramatically better when you feel better about yourself and the direction of your life.
I know for a fact that many of you can’t see the light at the end of the
tunnel courtroom. Fucking divorces are messing with your mind and heart and sometimes it’s all you can do not to break down in a steaming pile of emotional shit.
I get it and I’ve been there. And not that long ago.
But it has to change in order for it to get better and it needs to happen now.
It’s Not Just About You
I know all of you reading this would do anything to make your children’s lives better. Anything.
Yet so many of you are looking past the most obvious thing; yourself. Taking care of you is not a selfish act. It’s not putting your needs before your kids. It’s enabling you to be a better man and a better father.
Being physically fit is not the solution to your life’s challenges. But it can become the catalyst for things to come. It has to start somewhere, so why not start with your body?
A strong body will lead to a strong mind, plain and simple.
Two years ago when I was at my lowest point and beating myself up night and day, I made a decision. The decision to get my life back on track. And the very first thing I did was go running.
It was sad and pathetic because I really had let myself go, but I did it anyway. And then again the next night. And before long, I was feeling pretty good about myself.
That’s what it’s all about. Your life won’t change tomorrow because you went to the gym. It won’t change because you have dedicated yourself to being better. It will change when you take the steps necessary to make it a habit and stick with it.
And chances are you’ll suck at it and that’s OK. Do it anyways.
Just Fucking Do It
For you and your children.
Now I don’t have all the answers, but I can help you get started on creating whatever life and body it is you want.
I’m a damn good coach and I care about my clients. And I care about your success as well, in the gym and in life. And if you want my help, I’m here to give it to you, just ask.
And if you’re willing to commit to starting your journey to getting your life back on track, starting with your health, I’m your man. In 12 short weeks, you can be a new man with a new outlook on life. No bullshit.
I’ve created two separate 12-week programs specifically for single dads:
For one on one virtual coaching, visit here for details.
For a customized program that will walk you through every aspect of your workout, take a look here.
I hope I get the chance to work with you, I really do. But if not, make it happen for yourself.
You got this. Now what the fuck are you waiting for??